How It Works
Relationships — with a partner, family members, colleagues, and with yourself — have a big influence on how you feel and behave. Sometimes you work things out together, and sometimes it helps to have someone from outside walk alongside you for a while: someone who isn't in the middle of the story, but who observes and listens closely.
You don't need to be certain that "it will all work out." Being willing to sit down together and look at your relationship is enough to get started.
Therapy Types
Relationship Therapy
Every person and every relationship is unique. I like to puzzle it out together with you: what's needed, how can you take steps forward — both as an individual and as a couple — and how can you come back into your strength?
Using EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) and systemic therapy, we explore the patterns that have developed between you and how they affect the relationship. We take time for the underlying emotions, old pain, and beliefs at play, and for the stories you've come to tell about yourselves, each other, and the relationship over time.
Alongside what you want to change, we also look at what's already there: what's going well, and how can you strengthen that? Step by step, we work toward more safety, understanding, connection, and intimacy.
Suitable for couples, regardless of relationship or living arrangement.
- Recurring arguments or growing distance
- Reduced connection or intimacy
- Rebuilding trust after a breach
- Major transitions: parenthood, moving, illness
Family Therapy
Within a family too, patterns can develop that get stuck: recurring conflicts, growing distance, or a feeling that you no longer reach each other — between parents and children, or among adult family members. In family therapy, we look at the family as a whole: what roles and patterns have formed, how you may unintentionally keep each other stuck in them, and what's needed to reconnect.
We also pay attention to each person's own position and history within the family, and to the resilience your family already has. The goal isn't for everyone to agree on everything, but for room to open up again to understand each other and keep engaging with one another, even when it's difficult.
Suitable for families with children, stepfamilies, and blended families.
- Conflicts between parents and children
- Grief or loss within the family
- Behavioral issues in children
- Transitions: divorce, illness, relocation
Individual Therapy
Even outside of a relationship, patterns — in thinking, feeling, or behavior — can get in your way. In individual therapy, we explore what those patterns are and the underlying emotions, old pain, and beliefs behind them. You gain clearer insight into what's going on inside you, and gradually, more room opens up to move differently — in relation to yourself and to the people around you.
Suitable for anyone who wants to work on themselves, alone or alongside a relationship or family track.
- Stuck patterns in thinking or behavior
- Difficulty setting boundaries
- Unprocessed experiences from the past
- Uncertainty about choices or direction
Intake
In the first sessions, we take time to explore what brings you here and the moments where things get difficult. We look at how you deal with tension, but also at what drives you and what matters to you — both as an individual and as a couple. We also pay attention to your background: culture, experiences from your family of origin, and previous relationships that play a role in how things unfold now. Together, this gives us insight into the patterns that have formed and into starting points for change.
My Approach
My approach is practical, warm, and experience-oriented — with a fitting dose of humor. In sessions, I observe, reflect back what I see, and, where needed, gently challenge you, always with care.
As a member of the Nederlandse Vereniging voor Relatie- en Gezinstherapie (NVRG, the Dutch Association for Relationship and Family Therapy), I stand for a scientifically grounded way of practicing.
Not sure which path fits you? That's okay — we can discuss it together.
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